Controlling Thoughts, Controlling Life, Part 4 (final)
Healing the Hurt, Taking Down that Negative Thought Pattern
So if you have journeyed this far with me… this is when I get excited, because this is where the healing happens…
(Make sure you have read the previous 3 articles)
Changing an underlying belief is sometimes a difficult task over time and sometimes, it happens in a moment. Personally and when I work with others it has been a journey with some incredible moments. Now that you have identified the pattern, understand the origin and now you are ready to replace that belief with a correct, true and positive belief. I want to talk to Christians for just a moment… If you are a Christ follower… you have at one point in your life asked Jesus into your heart as your savior and Lord… your belief system should be in Christ and ALWAYS go back to the Bible for your reference on who you are. If you are not a Christian, defining a belief system is a little more vague and difficult. I believe that healing happens because we have a defining belief system based on an unchanging and loving God, so I urge you to seek to find Jesus out if you never have before.
Healing the Hurt
If the core negative belief is based on a hurt that someone has caused you, it is critical that you forgive that person. Or if it is based on something you have done, ask for forgiveness and accept being forgiven. (refer to article on forgiveness) Then usually the opposite of what you have been believing is true. For example if your core belief is that you are not of worth or value because that is exactly what your father has told you. And you have believed that to be true to the core of who you are… I guarantee that has wreaked havoc in your life and my heart hurts for you. But the opposite is the real truth. You are a person of worth and value. You were created, designed and given a specific purpose for your life…. the journey is finding that purpose and fulfilling it. You have got to let that hurt heal in order to get rid of those negative thoughts that are feeding your addiction, your depression, your anxiety, your lack of hope… whatever you are struggling with… this is at the core.
You Have a Choice…
Here is the beauty of this process. Here is where you put into action all of the things we have been talking about. You can choose to keep believing all those core beliefs that have a negative grip on your life or you can choose hope. Change what you believe… put it into practice. Again… this could happen in a moment when you actually know that what you have believed is false and there is truth that changes you instantly. OR sometimes it is hard work. If you need to put up posters around your house, car, work… that remind you of who you REALLY are. Do it. If you need to practice every minute some of the skills we have talked about… Do it. Speak the new belief system out loud! There is a power in the spoken word. Choose to change… one thought one moment at a time. Each positive thought is a victory. Each negative thought taken captive is a victory! You can choose to heal; to see life through a whole new lens.
Sometimes the truth is that we have to continually wrestle these thoughts. We want to be delivered and we can work hard, but we still struggle. Then my encouragement… keep wrestling. Have good friends and family hold you accountable. To pray for you, to encourage you. Let a couple of people that you can really trust wrestle with you. Use them as support. I hope and pray that you will be delivered. But if you have to wrestle… keep up the fight. It is worth the effort… you are worth the effort. Take it one day, one hour,one minute at a time… you CAN do this!!